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A New Year's Charge

I don't know about you, but starting a new year is like being reborn. Your senses are more attuned, but unfortunately not in the superhero sense. Do you remember that scene of the Matrix where Neo is verbalizing that his eyes are hurting and Morpheus states that the reason for his trouble is that he has never used his eyes before? You're now looking in the mirror and you see physical attributes that weren't there last year. Like that new stubborn white hair or the circles under your eyes that didn't seem to be as dark a few days ago. Or even though you are healthy and maintaining your weight that parts of your body seem to be out of proportion today. But you sigh and shake your head and prepare for your day, nonetheless.

You feel awakened and energized at the thought of seeing 2020 and all it's possibilities. That's what you say to people anyway, as they start naming the year. But when you steal away to your most honest of locales(for me it's the bathroom), you feel like you did last year around the same time:OVERWHELMED.

You get a redo or restart just like when Mario gets attacked by a Spiny. Imagine how Mario feels as he drops out of the sky right back in the dreadful scene that killed him. He wants to try out his new techniques and weapons and he believes that in this round he will certainly triumph over that Spiny. But will he? What if he doesn't? What if this time it's not the Spiny that leads to sudden death, but he doesn't get enough speed behind him and he ends up falling into the abyss as he attempts to jump to the other side.

He knows it's counterproductive to have anything, but a growth mindset when it comes to approaching his redo, but if he could just be real for a moment in his honest locale he would recognize that he is afraid.

You know what's ahead of you and you have plans of where you want to travel, and projects you want to accomplish. Hell, you don't even plan to be in the same job 6 months from now. This is the year that you will become your own boss.

Every teacher you've ever had has assured you that there is no such thing as a dumb question. Yet you know the question set that you are vacillating over is so rudimentary that your teachers will be sure to send your questions to the dunce pile proving that there are, in fact, dumb questions.

Somehow you find the courage to proceed with your inquisition. Where do I even start? How can I do this? Am I being unrealistic or selfish?

Well, good on you for being introspective. I'm proud of you. But the story is not complete. This is where most people end, but it's far from over.

Now, I hate to be the guy that presumes to have all the answers cause I really don't. But I do have these episodes from time to time and I just want to share a few of my coping strategies. I'm not going to give them all away, though. For that, you have to hire me as your life coach.

5 Strategies for Managing the New Year Blues

1. Take solace in the fact that you are not alone.

2. Write about your thoughts in a journal.

3. Have an honest conversation with someone in your inner circle about it. Let it out.

4. Prioritize and start with the most important on your list.

5. Partner with someone.

I want to leave you with a quote from Oprah Winfrey

"Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right."

And one of my own, " Don't just talk about it. Be about it."

Until next time folks.

The Contentment Coach signing off

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